Last week, we debuted Zeena’s advice column “Ask A Bombshell” and the response was incredible. More questions started flooding in, and — as promised — Zeena Koda has responded with her sage advice. But of course, the column can not continue without more questions from you, the Gun Shy reader. So hit us up at chris[at]gunshyassassin[dot]com. No topic is off the table, and Zeena — who hosts a show on Sirius XM’s Liquid Metal — will always offer her honest, unfiltered take on your queries. This week, Zeena tackles topics like whether guitar lessons are worth the scratch and how do tell your lover they’ve got dragon breath.
“What’s the best way to approach the bad breath talk? I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and I’m really into him. But his breath could wake the dead. Not all the time, but too often. — Mia”
The Bombshell says…
I sympathize terribly with this issue. I have had this in the past and it’s seriously a TOTAL turn-off; makes you not even want to kiss someone or be near them and will lead to you making out with someone else, with better breath. When I was 16, my best childhood friend told me about one of the most incredible things she did. She was making out with this guy who had less than fresh breath, so in order to remedy it, she said “Hey, I think my breath is kicking — you got some gum?” He replied with “No, sorry’ and she stealthily laid in: “Well, yours is so let’s go get some gum!” Brilliant, simply genius.
Bottom line: a relationship is about honesty and if you have been with him at least a few months, you gotta bring it up in some way, shape or form — I’d say best way is to be direct when the dragon is loose. Be gentle and direct, see how he takes it. If he freaks out, well — time to find a 10 or 2 satisfactory 5’s with sexy breath to console you…you’ll feel better, trust me.
“You said nothing was offlimits so here goes. I’m gay and I like metal. Fuck, that felt good. Sadly I have learned in this scene that [that] isn’t something I can just go around telling people. I don’t want my ass kicked. My best friends don’t know, I have a girlfriend, I play sports, I like metal. But I’m hiding my true self from the people I love and am just debating whether to wait until after high school to come out or if I should come out now. It’s just two years, right? I’ll be going away to college where I plan to be true to myself but for now, I just don’t think I can. — IheartHalford”
The Bombshell says…
You shouldn’t put a timeline on “coming out,” whether you’re metal or not. It’s a huge step emotionally and socially, and I have had many gay friends that have gone through this process. At the end of the day, it will be exposed when it is exposed and you need to be ready to be as strong as possible and understand who you are in order to successfully maintain some sanity throughout it. You need to do this when you are ready to — unfortunately, only you know when you will be ready to, but I can understand your anxiety especially in a world where homosexuality isn’t very openly discussed or accepted. I’d say do a little soul searching, never let anyone make you feel bad about who you are, wear that shit with fucking pride — it makes you who you are and if you don’t believe in you, who will?! Check out Torche’s Steve Brooks — he’s a killer example of a man in metal/heavy music who is openly homosexual, still bears (drumroll) a man’s man ‘tude and is unabashedly confident in his music and existence. Confidence and honesty with yourself/your feelings will be your saving grace, always.
“Are guitar lessons really worth the money, or does it depend on the teacher? — Tim”
The Bombshell says…
A good music teacher, someone empathetic and genuine, who will nurture your love of music is by far to ME priceless. I’m a firm believer that solid technique and a working theory background can help with any instrument and style of music. Unfortunately, finding the perfect teacher can be a lot like finding the right significant other, so you might have to ask fellow guitar players who they might suggest and also evaluate what it is you are looking to get out of the lessons and pick accordingly. If you’re looking to push yourself as a musician, the reality is learning from someone else who has professional experience will be beneficial but be prepared to dedicate yourself wholly in order to get the best results.
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